Bell HooksWhen we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.
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When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment. We tend to give up on our partners because of the pain, sometimes without giving them a chance to explain their actions or apologize. Instead, we assume the worst and cut ourselves off from the other person. If you’ve ever found yourself in this position, you know how painful it can be.
Source: All About Love: New Visions
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